Every Goal A Success? Tell Me How!

By Margaret Merrill

Seven Secrets for Inspired Success

Secret Six

“The sixth secret is to release your attachment to the outcome. You may wonder how it is that you create success if you are not attached to the outcome. The purpose of any goal or intention in our lives is personal growth. As we create a vision of how we desire our life to be, we commit to growth and to the service we give, rather than the outcome. We do have a vision of the destination but are not attached to it happening in only one way. If we were attached to it, we would be saying, “Only this solution will do.”

Attachment to a single outcome limits our concept of success to a single experience. If we believe that a single outcome is the only measure of our success, then any experience other than the one we are attached to will lead to disappointment and a plummeting self-esteem. If we attach personal success to a certain car, job, relationship or piece of real estate, then we are again becoming a victim. Attachment to an object or outcome allows that outcome to define us. It shrinks our unlimited creative and spiritual potential down to the size of a pea and separates us from others and our Creator.

The best example I can give of this is a trip I recently took to the Bahamas for my brother’s wedding. It was to be a lovely barefoot event on one of the only pink sandy beaches in the world. I had imagined it for months. I love the ocean and was so looking forward to relaxing on the beach, feeling the sun on my face and listening to the sound of the surf. Just days before our departure hurricane Wilma crossed the Florida peninsula leaving devastation in its path and the Fort Lauderdale to Bahamas flights cancelled. The hotel we had stopover reservations at had lost most of its roof and south Florida was without power, water, and food and was under curfew. Our Bahamian resort was thankfully unscathed.

We arrived later that day at our destination, Harbor Island, weary from the adventure but happy to be in the Bahamas. While there, the trailing edge of another hurricane blew up several days’ worth of gale, covering the steps to the beach with deep sand dunes and drenching us with torrential rain. Much of the town remained closed, shutters drawn during the storm. On cue, the clouds parted on the day of the wedding giving us a spectacular sunset as the backdrop for a touching event, crowned with conch shells filled with tropical flowers.

Had the success of my experience been attached to a beach chair and sun tan I would have missed the precious time I enjoyed with my family in still, one of the most beautiful places on the earth.

The ultimate glory came when on the last day I watched a double rainbow appear over the ocean and the setting sun cast the most amazing iridescent orange pink on the ceiling of tropical clouds that stretched from one horizon to the other. It was the most vibrant and breathtaking sunset I have ever witnessed, lasting over 30 minutes. I watched with other resort guests who stood in breathtaking silence. Without the storms, I would never have had that experience, for there would not have been the clouds nor the extra measure of gratitude I felt for this peaceful and brilliant gift.”

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Margaret Merrill is the author of “Live the Life You Love: Discover Your Purpose and Live It With Intention” She coaches individuals worldwide on purpose discovery and the creation of successful purpose driven projects.

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Who could you model yourself on?

The Top 10 Secrets From Anthony Robbins
By Thomas Murrell

For more than 25 years US-based motivational speaker and success coach Anthony Robbins has been passionately pursuing the answers to questions such as 'What shapes human behaviour? And how can we create lasting change
within oursleves and others?'.

He has spoken in front of more than 3 million people around the world and sold around 35 million books and audio coaching products.

After attending his 4-day 'Unleash The Power Within' seminar recently in Kuala Lumpur I learnt many strategies to perform at your best.

I even took part in his famous barefoot walk over hot coals. This powerful physical metaphor shows how anyone can overcome their deepest and greatest fears with focus, passion and desire.

Part rock concert, part learning experience, part aerobic workout, the seminar was attended by more than 4,000 people in a giant indoor sporting stadium that was built for the Commonwealth Games.

Standing 6'7", weighing 265 lbs and with a shoe size of 16, Robbins was impressive on stage as he harnessed the energy of the crowd.

In fact, security guards have to line the stage as he is regularly swamped by over eager fans.

At 43 years old, he has been enourmously successful and worked with people like President Clinton and Melson Mendela.

What was it like?

Hot, humid, high energy and simple take home messages packaged with a high-tech light, sound and video show.

I was impressed, motivated and got some great ideas from it.

Here is my gift to you. The Top 10 Secrets of Success I learnt from spending 4 days with Tony Robbins.

1. YOUR POTENTIAL IS DETERMINED (OR LIMITED) BY YOUR SELF-BELIEF.

As the promotional material says the event was 'about creating breakthroughs, moving beyond fears and limiting beliefs, accomplishing goals and realizing true desires, turning dreams into reality, creating fulfilling relationships, and modeling the strategies of peak performers to produce a quantum difference in your life.'

If you cut out the hype, the simple message is if you believe in yourself enough you can achieve anything.

A memorable one-liner was "the only thing that's keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself".

2. MOST PEOPLE HAVE SELF-DOUBT AROUND UNIVERSAL THEMES.

Ask anyone and most people will admit they lack confidence in some areas of their life. The interesting thing I learnt from this seminar is that this self-doubt is around universal themes. These themes cross age, gender, religous, cultural and language barriers.

Common doubts include 'I am not good enough', 'I am lazy' and 'No-one loves me'.

3. YOU CAN LEARN MECHANISMS TO ELIMINATE SELF-DOUBT.

Robbins calls it 'immersion' where you break old patterns and build new ones by repetition. He uses a lot of Neuro-Linguistic Programming techniques to achieve this with his audiences.

He says "progress is not automatic".

A memorable moment in the seminar was when we had to visualize ourselves inside a bubble and inside that bubble was a series of videotapes neatly arranged in a time-line that represented all our memories in our lives so far. We had to pull out the negative videotapes and destroy them. This was followed by time spent visualising the future and how your life will look 10 and 20 years from now.

4. BELIEF IMPACTS ON MANY LEVELS.

The Robbins message was that 3 things shape our self-belief. He calls them the Triad. These are our patterns of physiology, focus and language or meaning.

He highlighted this with the quote: "where focus goes energy flows".

5. OUR VALUES AND BELIEFS SHAPE OUR ACTIONS.

Robbins believes you can "vanquish whatever is holding you back from taking action".

Walking barefoot across a bed of glowing coals is the physical metaphor he uses in his seminars to prove this point to the skeptics.

Eliminate negative self-belief and take massive action are his keys to success.

6. TO CREATE POSITIVE OUTCOMES YOU MUST TAKE MASSIVE ACTION.

"Where focus goes energy flows" is a quote used by Robbins in his presentation to highlight why you need to know your outcome and why achieving this is a must.

But many people fail to take the next step. They delay, put off and find many reasons or excuses not to act.

Robbins believes "progress is not automatic" and "action is power". Take action, even if it is the wrong action. He says it is "never a failure if you learn something".

7. MATCHING & MIRRORING CREATES CONNECTION, TRUST & EMPATHY.

Robbins spent a fair amount of time in the seminar talking about and demonstrating interpersonal communication skills.

He used people from the audience to show how the process of "matching and mirroring" the non-verbal communication and body language of others can be a very powerful way to connect with people.

In essence, you create rapport by adopting the body language of the person you are communicating with.

He believes "rapport is power" and "total responsiveness is created by a feeling of commonality".

If you have learnt these techniques before and haven't used them for a while, I suggest it is time to dust them off and put them into action next time you are communicating with someone on a one-to-one basis.

8. ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE IF YOU FOCUS ON PASSION AND PURPOSE.

Robbins believes that "to have an extraordinary quality of life you need two skills: the science of achievement (the ability to take anything you envision and make it real) and the art of fulfilment (this allows you to enjoy every moment of it)."

He says "success without fulfilment is failure".

Find your passion and purpose in life. My purpose is to make a difference in people's lives and use my gift as a speaker.

9. MODEL YOURSELF ON OTHER ACHIEVERS.

To gain improvements quickly and step up to a new level of achievement, Robbins believes learning from others who are the best in their field is the fastest way to achieve success.

He told the story of how he wanted to improve his tennis game and so employed Andre Agassi, the then number one ranked player to help him achieve this.


"People's lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group," according to Robbins.

10. SUCCESS IS BUILT ON A HEALTHY, HIGH ENERGY BODY, HEART AND MIND

If you are not healthy - all of the above points are a waste of time.

Your health is determined and influenced by your lifestyle.

One major change I've made since the seminar is to eat a healthier diet and exercise more regularly.

As a speaker, my whole business depends on my ability to perform at a peak state. Like any professional athlete, the success of business is directly linked to my diet and health.

Take care of yourself, your body is ultimately your most important asset.

Thomas Murrell MBA CSP is an international business speaker, consultant and award-winning broadcaster. Media Motivators is his regular electronic magazine read by 7,000 professionals in 15 different countries. You can subscribe by visiting http://www.8mmedia.com. Thomas can be contacted directly at +6189388 6888 and is available to speak to your conference, seminar or event. Visit Tom's blog at http://www.8mmedia.blogspot.com

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Top 25 Success Quotations

Consider what it takes to become an undeniable success with these sincere quotations that identify the fundamental factors necessary to triumph...

1. " Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other thing."
   -- Abraham Lincoln
2. "God gave us two ends. One to sit on and one to think with. Success depends on which one you use; head you win -- tails, you lose."
   -- Anonymous
3. "The ladder of success is best climbed by stepping on the rungs of opportunity."
   -- Ayn Rand
4. "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get."
   -- B. R. Hayden
5. "Success is a journey, not a destination."
   -- Ben Sweetland
6. "The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes."
   -- Benjamin Disraeli
7. "I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody."
   -- Bill Cosby
8. "The secret of success is to be in harmony with existence, to be always calm… to let each wave of life wash us a little farther up the shore."
   -- Cyril Connolly
9. "All of us are born for a reason, but all of us don't discover why. Success in life has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself. It's what you do for others."
   -- Danny Thomas
10. "Don't confuse fame with success. Madonna is one; Helen Keller is the other."
    -- Erma Bombeck
11. "Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You must first set yourself on fire."
    -- Fred Shero
12. "Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time."
    -- George Bernard Shaw
13. "A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success."
    -- Joyce Brothers
14. "Failure is success if we learn from it."
    -- Malcolm S. Forbes
15. "The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself."
    -- Mark Caine
16. "True success is overcoming the fear of being unsuccessful."
    -- Paul Sweeney
17. "Get up one time more than you're knocked down."
    -- Peter's Principle of Success
18. "Most people who succeed in the face of seemingly impossible conditions are people who simply don't know how to quit."
    -- Robert Schuller
19. "The truth is that all of us attain the greatest success and happiness possible in this life whenever we use our native capacities to their greatest extent."
    -- Smiley Blanton
20. "When your physical environment is in alignment with your aspiration, success becomes the norm."
    -- Susan St Lawrence
21. "The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people."
    -- Theodore Roosevelt
22. "The way to succeed is to double your error rate."
    -- Thomas Watson
23. "Dictionary is the only place that success comes before work. Hard work is the price we must pay for success. I think you can accomplish anything if you're willing to pay the price."
    -- Vince Lombardi
24. "Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm."
    -- Winston Churchill
25. "Success is the maximum utilization of the ability that you have."
    -- Zig Ziglar